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Wives, Question Every Decision

I recently commented on a Christian post that said, "Wives, don't question your husband's decisions... he knows what he is doing."

Just couldn't walk away from that one!! I was called bat s**t crazy (HA!)because of my common sense and Biblical answer. Par for the course in the world of male chauvanism, which unfortunately also rears its ugly head in the church.

Wives, question everything! Decisions need to be MUTUAL and prayed through. I have counseled more women that ended up in a big mess due to "trusting" all of the husband's decisions, than I care to think. (And that can work the other way too, with trusting all of the wife's decisions!) But today I am speaking a message to wives...

We have the Holy Spirit living inside of us Who guides us and directs us. Never blindly follow ANYONE. Your pastor, your husband , etc. You can hear God for yourself and receive confirmation. One day when you meet Jesus, you can NEVER give the excuse, "Well, my pastor said! My husband said!" No, no...that will never fly with Him.

The Bible says CLEARLY, and let me re-emphasize, CLEARLY... that we are to "Submit ye one to another." Checks and balances. The church conveniently forgets about that part!

A husband's role is leadership... but that does not mean dictatorship. Christ was a leader and a servant. And he called husbands to love their wives as Christ loved the church and gave Himself for her.... It's all about service. A husband is not the wife's Lord. The wife already has a Lord. Her hope is in God. She is to judge all things and be aware and be vigilant! Why? Because satan walks around as a roaring lion, seeking whom he may devour. If our husbands are devoured, then we are devoured. We don't want to be devoured!

We have to be on guard that satan comes as an angel of light. That angel of light can influence a husband's decisions. So as your husband's HELPMEET, wives are to help him in ways that he cannot help himself. A HELPMEET is an equal teammate, standing shoulder to shoulder, figuring out the best solutions and the best directions in life. Wives, you have a really important calling!! The Holy Spirit can speak THROUGH YOU, to get a message to your husband!

This a deep, deep teaching that could on for days, but for now, understand that you, as a woman and a wife, can hear CLEARLY and DIRECTLY from God. We do not need a man to interpret for us. We are to always seek confirmation from the Lord on any decision that a husband is making on our behalf and that will affect us and our children. One woman I know allowed her husband to squander away the family finances with horrible decisions, and in the end, they were bankrupt. You do not want to get sucked down a rabbit hole in a course of bad decision making. I have seen it too many times... STAY VIGILANT!!! Ladies... "Getting wisdom is the most important thing you can do. Whatever else you get, get insight." ~ Proverbs 4:7 Kimberly - Minister/Teacher@ God's Healing Power Radio Ministry. Celebrating 30 years In Ministry! 1993-2023+ All blogs are copywritten © and a part of our books.


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